Every time I tell somebody I am a virgin they look at me as if I just told them that my parents are aliens. People just don’t seem to understand why someone who could definitely “get some” chooses not to. In fact, a good 70% simply think that I am lying because they just can’t wrap their head around the fact.
Now I am not going to tell you why you should be a virgin and preach abstinence to you, but I feel like I should give you some reasons for myself.
- I am not in love yet.
That’s right there is ONLY ONE reason. Only recently did casual “fucking” become a thing. And there is a reason it was called “Love Making” in the past–but honestly that term just freaks me out…you get the point though.
For me, I believe that sex should be reserved just for the people who you love and love you back. I don’t want to ever be referred to as “that girl I fucked last Saturday in my car“. Yeah sorry, nope, wrong number, not me. But then again, that works for some people.
Whatever your stance is on the subject, I don’t really understand why it matters to anyone else what a person does with his or her body. If I want to go out and have sex with a different man every night of my life, then great, I should, and nobody should feel the need to say anything about it. The same applies now. Because I choose to not have sex until I love someone, I should not be shamed for it.
We live in a crazy world of “shaming”. There is skinny-shaming, fat-shaming, slut-shaming, and apparently virgin-shaming. However there is no in between. If you see someone on the street she is either skinny or fat. If a girl sleeps with a guy she is automatically deemed a hoe, and if she chooses not to, she is a prude.
But what I don’t get is why everybody
fucking cares!!!! It is nobody’s business what I choose to do with my body, it is just my own. And really, there are many other things to focus on than the fact that I have not had sex yet, or that the guy next to me has had sex 30 times. IT DOES NOT MATTER!
Now I hope you actually read what I am saying, and maybe think about it a bit. Have you ever been guilty of coming to a quick judgement about someone without knowing the full story? I know I have. Will I do it again in the future? One hundred percent. However, I now am able to think of things in a bit of a different light and try to be more open to seeing both sides. Because I know that I hate it when people shame me for being a virgin.
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