A Pretty Virgin

Every time I tell somebody I am a virgin they look at me as if I just told them that my parents are aliens.  People just don’t seem to understand why someone who could definitely “get some” chooses not to.  In fact, a good 70% simply think that I am lying because they just can’t wrap their head around the fact.  

Now I am not going to tell you why you should be a virgin and preach abstinence to you, but I feel like I should give you some reasons for myself. 

  1. I am not in love yet. 

That’s right there is ONLY ONE reason.  Only recently did casual “fucking” become a thing.  And there is a reason it was called “Love Making” in the past–but honestly that term just freaks me out…you get the point though.  

For me, I believe that sex should be reserved just for the people who you love and love you back.  I don’t want to ever be referred to as “that girl I fucked last Saturday in my car“.  Yeah sorry, nope, wrong number, not me.  But then again, that works for some people. 

Whatever your stance is on the subject, I don’t really understand why it matters to anyone else what a person does with his or her body.  If I want to go out and have sex with a different man every night of my life, then great, I should, and nobody should feel the need to say anything about it.  The same applies now.  Because I choose to not have sex until I love someone, I should not be shamed for it.  

We live in a crazy world of “shaming”.   There is skinny-shaming, fat-shaming, slut-shaming, and apparently virgin-shaming.  However there is no in between.  If you see someone on the street she is either skinny or fat.  If a girl sleeps with a guy she is automatically deemed a hoe, and if she chooses not to, she is a prude.  

But what I don’t get is why everybody fucking cares!!!!  It is nobody’s business what I choose to do with my body, it is just my own.  And really, there are many other things to focus on than the fact that I have not had sex yet, or that the guy next to me has had sex 30 times.  IT DOES NOT MATTER!

Now I hope you actually read what I am saying, and maybe think about it a bit.  Have you ever been guilty of coming to a quick judgement about someone without knowing the full story?  I know I have.  Will I do it again in the future?  One hundred percent.  However, I now am able to think of things in a bit of a different light and try to be more open to seeing both sides.  Because I know that I hate it when people shame me for being a virgin. 


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    • I totally agree!! And oh my gosh you are so sweet!! Thank you so much!! :*

  1. Very good read. And thanks for following my page.

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    • Awe, thank you….I would definitely be open to that and will keep in mind! Xx

  2. Don’t worry about it! I think you’re entitled to how you want to live your life, and it shouldn’t be an issue with anyone who matters. To quote Baruch: “Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

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